Omega (& Alpha)

I'm done. I'm no longer Mormon (officially), or In The Closet, or plagued with the Dichotomy between homosexuality and the church.

There's no longer any reason for me to post here.

But... At the advice of others I'm going to keep blogging. Sometimes about gay and/or church stuff, but mostly about anything that seems important enough to me to write about.

I'll leave this blog up, for posterity.

But if you want to hear anything more from me, you'll need to head over here.

THE END

Whataya Want From Me?

I feel kinda like a "me too"--I won't (with this post) be the fist MoHo blogger in recent history to wonder whether there's any point in continuing, or to wonder what I have left to contribute to the community. Come to think of it this isn't even the first time I've wondered such things on my own blog.

But the fact is I've been feeling disconnected from the MoHo blog community lately. I haven't been as diligent in adding new blogs to my feed reader as they've appeared. I haven't been as meticulous in reading every post on those that are in my reader--it's becoming more and more common for me to "mark as read" a whole list of posts after a quick browse of the summaries or first paragraphs.

There are reasons for this, I think. (Well, obviously there are reasons. What I mean is that I think I know what at least some of those reasons are...)

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(Relation)Ships in the Night

I've wondered recently if unrealistic expectations about the durability of relationships might often result in unnecessary heartache... These expectations would be more pronounced among Mormons, with their doctrinal belief in "time and all eternity", but even the "until death do us part" model that most of the rest of the world subscribes to would contribute to the (possible) problem.

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Love on the Rocks

or: What I Learned From My First Gay Relationship

A lot has happened since my last post. :)

Some background... I met David very briefly at a Simply Social activity. In fact, the "meeting" might not have been anything more than a brief locking of eyes--we were sitting at separate tables and I don't remember whether we actually exchanged names or shook hands or anything.

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What Are We?

It's been difficult figuring out what Sarah and I are to each other right now...

We're not the only ones who are confused. Sarah's mom knows a fair bit about our situation--she knows that I'm sleeping in the basement, and that we expect to divorce eventually. She was over once or twice last week helping with a baby quilt, and commented to Sarah about how "normal" everything seemed. She wondered if Sarah would need a ride to and from a scheduled medical procedure and was surprised to learn that I was taking time off work to take care of things. The day after the procedure she was at our home again and was again surprised when I texted Sarah to check up on her and see how she was doing.

I guess she expects a separated / divorcing couple to act differently... To display more animosity, perhaps? Or at least not to get along as well as Sarah and I do? To not care about each other? I don't know...

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They Don't Get It?

I'm not sure whether the church is being intentionally disingenuous, or whether they simply don't get it.

HRC delivered a petition to the church today, asking for more understanding and an official recognition that sexual orientation is inherent and that in most cases it cannot (and should not) be "changed".

Unfortunately, the church's response fails to address the main issue.

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Scripture Lost

I've refrained from commenting on Boyd Packer's talk last Sunday, because I'm doing my best to avoid negativity toward the church or its leaders (and I would not have had anything positive to say about his remarks).

Today, Facebook and the "bloggernacle" are abuzz with talk of the published (written) version of his talk, and the differences between the "transcript" and what was said over the pulpit.

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